If we cannot be honest with and trust Him, we cannot be honest with and trust others. We are unfit for corporate fellowship.
Moreover, God will not place such people in a fellowship, as they are cancerous growths that spread disease, infecting others, and misrepresenting Christ.
They may still gather with others in places, here and there, like leaves blown into the same location, but it is not the wind of the Spirit that drives them.
The wind of the Holy Spirit gathers us for a purpose, as indispensible members of one another, and the evidence of His gathering is a people who are wholly able to trust and follow the leadership of the Holy Spirit in their midst.
When God is leading in a fellowship, we see a willingness to receive His witness through all the saints. It is this Witness [and His working among and through all the saints] that qualifies a gathering as spiritual.
These things disqualify saints from fellowship:
An unwillingness to be transparent about their true motives or feelings.
An unwillingness to trust the leadership of the Holy Spirit working through other saints.
An unwillingness to admit obvious wrong doing.
Here’s the thing though–where we find one of these errors–we are certain to find them all.
Repentance is associated with openness and honesty, and this humilityis the foundation of a healthy fellowship:
If there be therefore any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any bowels and mercies, fulfil ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.
Humility is evidenced by a willingness to serve and look after the interests of the Lord’s assembly, as Christ did for us (Philippians 2:5-8), all the saints submitting to the Lord and one another, according to the working of the Holy Spirit:
Likewise, ye younger, submit yourselves unto the elder. Yea, all of you be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility: for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble.